I am creating this blog because several people have suggested that I write up some of the tips and tricks that have helped me in caring for my loved one (LO) who has dementia. The journey isn't over, so I'm sure I will continue to learn and adapt to the changing conditions. My brother is also along for this adventure. We both like problem solving and are good at lateral thinking. It always helps to think, "If this way of doing things isn't working, what else can we try?" Sometimes a problem arises that makes me think I just can't manage anymore, and then we come up with a solution and suddenly things look brighter. I also have help in the form of part-time caregivers who come in for a few hours three days a week. And I have a friend who is in a similar situation that I talk to on the phone every now and then. I follow a few Facebook pages related to caregiving. I could post my ideas there but things get lost in the feed. And maybe you don't want to be on F
Naturally, I get discouraged and angry at times. Sometimes I speak strongly to my mother simply to get her to follow instructions. I would be embarrassed if anybody heard me talking to her like that, but it gets the job done faster. Still, the worst is when I am angry at myself for losing my cool. Then I have to use some of the sayings that I've come up with. Here are a couple of my favorites. It doesn't have to be perfect. I don't have to be perfect. Another thing I do is follow some groups on Facebook that are about caregiving and memory loss. That helps me to put things in perspective--other people are going through the same thing or much worse. I don't belong to any in-person support groups, but I have a very supportive brother that I can share things with. And lastly, I have help. Twice a week, a helper comes from an agency to take Mom out for a few hours, walking and having lunch. On the weekend, a family friend takes Mom to church, followed again by a walk an